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An Ode to Saturday night

Since becoming a parent, I don’t miss those Saturday nights I’m not having anymore. I had lots of those nights: going out with friends, partying, staying out late and then luxuriously sleeping in.

It wasn’t having a baby that changed my routine, so much, I was thinking to myself last night at 10pm as I stood outside, just past my front steps, clinging to the end of my dog’s leash, wishing he wouldn’t refuse to pee in the backyard once the snow turns to dripping ice. Although in the past, I’d take more than a step or so away from the house where inside my little boy snoozes peacefully.

I did used to stay up late on Saturdays – watching movies as I scrapbooked happily on the coffee table, wrote, sipped wine and read. I always had a project on the go and I loved working on it into the wee hours, music playing or Sex in the City on repeat. I’ve always been pretty happy staying in on Saturday nights. This, I suppose, helps makes me a good fit for someone like Tyler who works every Saturday night. At first, I still went out with my girlfriends often, dragging them along to shows or out to a movie. But as the years went by, we all paired off, started doing ‘couple’ things, and I hung out mainly with single friends.

More time, and more things like marriage and babies, and we’re all being pulled in directions that don’t often equate to gathering on a Saturday night so often anymore. I imagine most of my friends are doing what I do: cleaning up the kitchen, folding one last load of laundry, maybe sneaking in an episode of TV before going to bed not so late.

Nowadays, I’m always meeting Sunday head-on, stumbling out of bed at the first morning cry of Mama! Since Tyler arrives home around 3:15am from work, he doesn’t even notice those wake-up sounds three or four hours later. We always go to my mom’s for breakfast to get out and let him sleep in.

It’s nice, a different sort of weekend, but not all that different. And all the smiles and laughter, feeling a little hand grip mine we walk outside in the early morning – it makes it all better.

A strong city

Life changed a bit today. For me and for everyone around me here in Ottawa. There was an attack here, in Canada’s capital city, a shooting at our Parliament Hill. One soldier was killed and the gunman managed to make it right into our government’s Peace Tower before being taken out. Government buildings and schools were locked down, and police and first responders swept the streets.

It’s the kind of thing I never imagined we would ever see here, in our calm city with friendly, welcoming faces; where I wouldn’t hesitate to ask for directions or walk alone night. This is a serene place, one that can even border on the mundane.

I don’t want to give into fear and paranoia. I want to believe that ours is a city of kind people who would help each other, and band together. I don’t want to think that our neighbours and friends could be people with ill intentions and guns hiding away in the closets of their minds. I want this to be a safe city for my son to grow up in and I believe that it will be again.

Even with the penchant of late to deliver horrible news in a graphic, breathless fashion, I’ve been following along online with my favourite local station, where the news is updated in a careful, thoughtful manner, rather than creating ill-conceived headlines written to strike terror. I’m glad about that. I’m not trying to disparage or brush aside what happened today. A soldier with a family who loved him was gunned down. Some were injured, and many others were thrown into panic by the sound of gunfire and emergency sirens.

This is not something we’ve seen here before and I just hope and pray it is not something we see again.An in-depth assessment or the situation, and more security measures may need to be taken, and my hope is that this is something we can do in a deliberate, intelligent manner.

After my son’s nap today, we laid down on my bed for a moment. Him still sleepy, and snuggled in close, fitting right to my body with his silky hair right under my chin. I sang a bit, and he nestled there, then looked up into my face with a funny little grin. I want this world that he will know to be a good one.

I’m gazing out the window now, quietly, watching the birds soar past. So sure of what they are doing and where they are going, uninterrupted in their path of flight. The sky is clear and blue; the trees outside still filled with specks of shifting green-yellow-red brilliance, and I breathe, feeling the remnants of uneasiness. Things are ok, and for that I am lucky.

Staycation week of things

I had the week off this past week. I had a HUGE list and was hoping to go beyond the overdue stuff to do some more, like cleaning out cupboards and hanging pictures, but we just had one of those weeks where one thing after another that should have been easy was not. In the spirit of thankfulness though, I’m thinking about all of the bright lights this week. It wasn’t the kind of vacation where you travel to a sunny place, sample excellent food and drink wine, gazing at the starry sky. But it afforded us a chance to get caught up on life a bit, and that was worth it. So here we go!

1.) We have a new modem. After going over our internet bill for the last few months I upgraded our package and got us a new modem. This is good, should be cheaper in the long run, and hopefully worth the snarky feelings I had towards the people who butted in front of me as I was trying to corral a toddler into waiting in line at the service center, the annoyance at the modem that was faulty and needed to be returned, the instructions to install it which could not be read as I didn’t have the program, and no internet to download this program, and the 2 useless service calls trying to get it all sorted. It took a full day but it is done. Done!

2.) Catching up on bills and forms and paperwork. We had a lot of little things to clear out, overdue and demanding more attention than an exhausted hour after workday/ dinner/ bath/ bedtime – and I think we got all of the big ones out of the way. Phew!

3.) We are all feeling better after the miserable stuffy heads, drippy noses, and achy limbs that kicked off the week. One after another we all caught the dreaded cold, and felt just wrung out. So I’m thankful that we had planned to stay home this week, and I’m glad we are all on the road to recovery now.

4.) Thankful for our family – Baby J has some fantastic grandparents and aunties and uncles that were happy to invite us over, feed us (I didn’t have to cook for two days in a row!), letting us relax knowing he was playing happily under their watchful eyes while we were sick. And then when we felt a bit better we made this fun video as part of Tyler’s song a day project:

5.) Family really deserves two waves of feeling thankful this week – to include the sweet, smiling cousin that pulled Baby J around patiently in a wagon all afternoon, helping him get out to pick up a toy, helping him back in, pulling him along again. And the great-aunt and uncle who watched him all day today so that we could catch up on some administrative things at the end of the week. We’re starting to peek out from piles of emails and make some plans for the next month and it feels great.

baby J and grandpa

wagon ride

6.) I was able to take Baby J to Toddlertime at the library during daytime (normally work hours) and despite being the youngest one there, he fit in fine, sat fairly still for the story, and even got up and bopped a bit to Old MacDonald had a Farm.

7.) Thankful that I was able to go over and snuggle my friend’s week-old baby, finding time to bake her cookies and cut up some veggies (snacks I adored in the first hazy weeks adjusting to motherhood) and bring her some infant sized hand me downs. Most people tend to buy bigger sizes as shower gifts, which is great too, but I loved getting newborn stuff, reliving me of daily washing (who know something so small would get so dirty, so often?) and I’m loving that I can get more use out of them by passing them along.

8.) The weather has been stellar the last couple of days – making me really enjoy fall so far, loving the last rays of golden sunlight, the crunchy leaves, the open windows during the day. It’s an unbelievable mood booster!


9.) Happy that we managed to do some things just the 3 of us, this week, too. We visited Valleyview Animal Farm, this nice little area nearby that has animals to feed and admire, from goats to pigs, deer and ducks. There are lots of fake animals to climb on (we learned that Baby J has added a good horse whinny to his repertoire of animal sounds), wooden tractors, piles of sand and toys, picnic tables for lunch or snacks, and a ton of different play structures to climb on and explore. He’s a bit young for a lot of it, but he had a good time and it was a great way to enjoy a morning outside.

deer valleyview farm

10.) All the time in the day. I’m running around busier than ever before, but I’m also using my time more, I find – I’m up earlier, my head is always moving and scheduling the day, we get groceries and we play, we visit with friends or take 15 minutes to just collect stones and climb steps outside. I absorb all of the new words and funny things, and then I enjoy that time to myself at the end of the night even more. I’m thankful for this precious life I have and all the time I’m given to enjoy it.


Wishing you all a marvelous weekend full of sunshine and happy things – they’re there, even when they seem hard to find.